If you have been on any social media platform this week then I’m sure you have heard about a statement Mila Kunis made about how her and her husband have decided to not give their kids Christmas presents. I guess last Christmas their daughter got too many gifts and she just wanted more stuff and didn’t seem to appreciate anything. This is a debate that I have heard many times before and caused a lot of controversy. It was no different this week with so many people sharing their opinions on the subject. How much is too much when it comes to Christmas Presents for your kids?
I have heard many parents debate that they decided not to give their children any presents or just one or two gifts. This way, they are learning the value of things and appreciate gifts more. Also, they want their kids to learn that there are other kids in the world who have even less and they should be thankful for having everything they need.
On the other side of the debate are the parents who believe that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with spoiling their kids when it come to Christmas time. Those who grew up in low income families and didn’t get much for Christmas themselves. So now they want to make sure their kids have the kind of Christmas they never had and only fantasized about.
My question is, why does there have to be a debate at all? We all come from different families, cultures, backgrounds and believes. We all do what we think is best for our children. We are all raising our kids with our own rules and to have the same visions in life that we do. That is, until they grow up and start to have a mind of their own and form their own opinions and beliefs. Which to me is the objective. How many gifts other parents decide to give or not to give their children during Christmas is their choice. They all have their reasons for the choices they make to fit their parenting style. Which is different for everyone. Who’s to say who is right and who is wrong? At the end of the day we’re all pretty much learning as we go in this parenting thing.
In our household we haven’t quite decided what to do when it comes to gift giving during Christmas time for our daughter. My husband and I stopped giving each other gifts a while ago. Instead we like to go on spontaneous trips or resort vacations. We also give each other random gifts all throughout the year so we don’t miss gift giving on Christmas. I have thought about just giving her one gift from us and one from Santa. I do want he to understand that there kids in the world who do not receive anything on Christmas and she should be very thankful. But I also don’t want her to feel left out and see her friends or classmates get gifts and she not get anything at all. This is most likely the way we will go. But of my friend or another mom I know decides to give their kids the whole lego store for Christmas then who am I to judge? That’s fine too.
Last year was Emma’s first Christmas and we kept it very simple. She had no idea what was going on so there was no reason to give her a million things. Plus she got more stuff from her grandparents and other family members. Which also brings me to another point. We won’t try to control what others want to give her. If they would like to give her a lot of gifts or just one then we’ll be thankful anyway. I think it’s kind of rude to tell a family member not to give your child a gift or try to dictate what to give them. I feel like it’s almost pressuring them into giving them something. How do I even know they were planning on giving them a gift in the first place?
Christmas is a time to be grateful and spend time with loved ones. A time to be happy and enjoy quiality time with those who we care about the most. It’s also a great time to give back and be there for those have are less fortunate. This is definitely something I will teach my daughter was well. I’ve always tried to participate in any sort of charity or volunteering during Christmas time and I’ll make sure to get my daughter involved as well as she gets older.
How many gifts others give or don’t give to their children should be the last of our worries. We need to stop judging other’s parenting choices and understand that we are all different. As long as we are all raising respectful, generous, kind and loving children that’s all that matters.